Has anyone ever said to you, “There’s no need to cry, so stop that!”. Or did you already want to console someone with these words? In the worst case, you may already have said it to yourself. When we cry, we find ourselves in a spiral of self-pity, embarrassment, and shame.
Although I am not a doctor, I am a man of emotions, and I want to share with you through my experiences why it is very important for us to cry.
Your body, mind and soul are trying to tell you something. You could be hurt, scared or angry. We may associate weeping with weakness because, as a child, we started to cry with all these emotional impressions. But as children we did not know any other way to process our emotions. We probably have not learned to identify and articulate our emotions because we are not used to suppressing them. Whatever explanation you have, crying is perfectly legitimate and natural, because something in you signals pain. Crying is a way to give free rein to your pain. Personally, I feel better immediately, clean and clear in my mind, when I can let go and cry.
As already mentioned: something in you wants to warn you. The harder you try not to cry, the more pressure builds up in one. Through this accumulation of emotions, many people often cry in the worst moments.
This is very closely related to pressure reduction. The more tense I am, the more I stop the air for no good reason. And again: the less I breathe, the more pressure builds up. You are undoubtedly in a vicious circle.
From a medical point of view, crying is at first pure stress for the body. When the human begins to sob, the pulse rises and the glands produce sweat. However, this stress response is followed by a reassuring moment that has a lasting effect. For this reason, the outbreak of emotion often bordering on hyperventilation causes a liberating feeling.
I once had a very moving experience in a workshop. The participants criticized some projects that were running in our company. Nobody knew that one of the attendees was leading many of them and working very hard to prevent such criticism. He was incredibly disappointed that his efforts were not recognized. He had tears in his eyes while the seminar leader had fueled a discussion. But suddenly my colleague stood up and let his feelings run wild in tears.
You could hear a needle drop. The facilitator had responded that it is often forgotten that people work very hard on these projects and usually only mean it very well.
My colleague never had to “pay the price” as he shouted that day. However, some of the participants – some of whom seemed tough – tried to build a personal bond with him. During a conversation with the said colleague, he explained to me that since this experience he has much more self-confidence in dealing with his emotions.
Even if you have the impression that you can cry to someone else – when you are at peace with yourself, simply tell your counterpart what you need and what you do not. A good friend once said the following to me: “I am delighted when a friend just sitting next to me while I cry and not tried to do anything in order to bring. I let him know that he has nothing to do with it, but that I’m just upset or just need to vent my anger. It’s certainly easier for both parties to mediate that I am doing well in my circumstances. “